Do you ever feel stuck in a life phase you don’t particularly like? Well, I have often felt that way. Until 2 years ago my job was changing diapers and making kiddie snacks for a wonderful, high energy family – which, great as it was, wasn’t what I’d imagined after 2, and later 3 university degrees. I’d work up to 13 hours a day, sometimes 7 days a week, tumbling into bed at 12 or later, only to wake up at 6 to shuttle kids to school…again.
Now taking care of kids is a really important job – I learned a lot of valuable lessons and had loads of heartwarming stories to tell about the cute things the kids would say. The problem was, it was a far cry from my dream of working as a communicator in a dynamic team that combats social issues like sexism and human trafficking.
Two bits of advice really helped me navigate a path through diaper changing and toward my life goals when I was reading Christine Caine’s book, Can I have and do it all, please? She wrote this book after women all over the world kept asking her the same question – ‘how do you do it? How do you fit being a wife, mom, activist, and international speaker in your life?
Answer #1 – each season of your life, even the ones that seem far away from your dreams, is part of God’s special plan for your life. God didn’t just have an interesting sense of humour in his choice of job for me, but important humility lessons too. Just like Romona and Carolyn told us in their posts, when we realise that our ‘now’ is part of our destiny, it helps us to embrace our season and have peace with it.
Answer #2 – constantly reevaluate where you are in life, and set goals for getting to your dreams. This may seem like the opposite of point 1, but actually these concepts work together. An amazing woman called Christina really helped me understand how to do this. (As a wife, mom, and successful businesswoman I guess she’s learned a lot!). Her advice was to brainstorm all the things I want to achieve in my life, from super important to unimportant – get it all out there on paper. Then, to ask God which aspects belong to now, and together with trusted friends, to make action steps to achieve those goals. Simple yet powerful, right?
I’m still rather far from my dream destination, but the cool thing is I’m at least ten steps closer! This blog is one of those steps, and actually, I’m in the process of making new goals – it takes work, but in bite sizes our dreams can be closer than we think….
What life phase are you in, and what steps can you take to reach your dream?